whats gona happen if u say hi? she wont' slap you. This is true, grls like guys with confidence. Looks doesn't matter man just get to know her. later in like you will be pounding ur self when ur married and you like dam i could of done so and so with so and so...
Update: 2-3 weeks ago, I came to class earlier hoping she would sit beside me but no avail ;(. Following week lecture was cancelled due to thanksgiving. Damn thanksgiving, couldn't have been a day earlier or later. Then on the lab, that week, since she wasn't in my class, I kind of chatted with my friend till she came, Their was no class that day but I guess no one knew. As I saw her come in and sit, I kind of just walked up to her but then chickened out and walked past her to my other friend in that class and said in a loud voice. "There's no class today" and she heard me and asked me about it and about the work that was due that day. We only exchanged like 3-4 sentences then I left clas with my friend and then she left and walked the other way. Well I had a class with her this week and we have a midterm test. I practiced all the things I was gonna say to her, but guess what? I deliberatly came to class later then usual but I couldn't see her. Then I go up to my friend and he's like I don't see her. Then he points me to out in the front, and whala, she's sitting beside some guy and talking him. I was really pi$$ed but I thought I still might have a chance when everyone handed in their tests, well guess what, as I saw her hand in her test paper, I tried to quickly walk up to the prof and hand it in but when I left the room, she was no where to be seen. Right now I just really feel like i should just give me. Everytime I try, it just ends up as a big slap in the face for me. My effort goes down the drain. One part of me tells me to be persistant and not give up but the other part of me, says you should just give up and stop wasting your time because you will never get a gf. I was deeply hurt 3 years ago with another situation when I found out the girl had a bf. I buried myself at schoolwork, martial arts and weight training. All my effort back then was wasted as well. Whats to say the same thing won't happen again. After that, I stopped thinking about this sort of stuff for 3 years till now. I didn't ask for this to happen, it just happened, I can't frinking sleep, I can't concentrate in class and she's always in my head. I tried to do other stuff to get my mind off her like going out with friends, weight training, movies and stuff but its not working this time. I talked to my friends about it and they just ignore me and laugh at me. I ask them to go out but they bail on me. Everywhere I go I see frinking couples, and its tearing me apart. Its probably my destiny to be frinking single for life. Its kind of like that song " don't dream its over" .I don't know what I did to deserve this but I guess thats my fate.
Well I'm sure some others are willing to give you sympathy, but not me. I don't give sympathy to those who give up. Stop the damn stalker moves in your effort to say something. Girls are keen to knowing who's interested in them and who's not. Stalker moves = Scary or Wussy, neither trait a girl wants from a guy. What's your goal anyways? To ask her out? So do it, your goal is not to TRICK her into it. So grow some balls and walk up to her, say hi, make a couple jokes, ask for her email or number, say you gotta go. DONE DEAL. LOL, if you think those minor things are "slap in the face", then yes, you will be forever lonely. If your car's low on gas, and you pull into the gas station, but it's full, do you drive off right away thinking "i'll never ever get gas in my whole entire life -cry2"? The moment you truely think that's your fate, it will be. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
alrite look talk to her, nothing is gona happen. Your old enough and she is mature enough, there will be no slap in the face. THe thing she will say is i'm sorry i don't feel the same way about you. Your goal to get to talk to her and don't be friend her!!!!!!!! because your ass will be in the friend zone and then you will want to kill your self some more. ITs oki wolf just try, if it don't work out there will alwais be other grls ... goodluckk
lol omfg... you totally blew it and missed the perfect opportunity when there was no class... I mean you were walking right to her... why the hell did you chicken out... you shoulda walked up to her.. and go hey did you know there was no class... then talk more bs about the class... blah blah blah... and end it with.. since there's no class would you like to go to starbucks n grab some coffee and study for exam or whatever... if she said no.. you can say oh how bout Jamba Juice instead... -lol she's gotta like one or the other... and if she says no to both... well i hope you pretty much get the hint...
Someone shoot me. Put me outta my misery. I can't stand this anymore. I can't sleep, I lost my taste for food, everything seems dull and I have a whole load of assignments, projects due soon but I can't concentrate. I wanted to talk to her but everything someone is sitting beside her now.
quit being all dramatic... if you really wanted it, you'd go for it... can't blame anyone but yourself... don't make up lame lil excuses..
Pretty much what Avant and Ecko said is correct, you should be flirting with girls besides the one you are interested in. The reason behind that is practice. You need to build up your confidence before you see any type of success. Some people are telling you to just talk to the girl, but talking to her does not guarantee that you will get with her if you dont do it the right way. From how you described yourself and your behavior most likely you will fail in attempting to get with her. You might squeeze out a phone number, but a number will only get you so far. Girl's get turned off really fast especially if the guy is too passive. In your case even if you do get the nerve to talk to her and then get her number I see u turning her off eventually because you havent changed your passive nature. This change is gradual and it takes practice. I suggest that you practice flirting with this girl along with other girls. Keep in mind that you might not succeed, but it will be an important first step. Also like what the guy's said, just take it slow and approach it one step at a time. The point is not to get with this one girl, but to get a girl eventually. Im saying this because often times, the guy who is obsess with a certain girl also lacks the skills to get her in the first place. That is why u need to develop these skills. Remember that excuses do not get you anywhere and quit saying negative things. Stop thinking about this and concentrate on what's really important, your school work. After you are done with that then you should attempt talking to her. Dont stress yourself out, girls are just girls. Stop thinking so highly of them even if shes fine ass hell. another thing is that the hotter the girl, the harder it is to get with her and the more problems you will encounter later on. If this is your first attempt to get with a girl, I suggest that u stick with girls within your own league. Keep in mind pretty girls gets more attention from guys meaning they have more options. With so many options whats the likely hood she will want you if you are low in confidence and whats the likelyhood she will stay with you? All girls are attracted to confident guys. You can be fat and short, but if you have confidence you can get a decent looking girl. So get up and start improving yourself.
The original question was: "Why am I so shy and useless?" The answer is, because you're shy and useless. Until the day you decide to stop being shy and useless, then you will always be shy and useless. Just walk over to the girl and say, "how about having a cup of coffee with me?" Yes or no; Yes, go sit down and chat with her; no, then move on. The more complicated that you try to set things up, the more you're doomed to failure. Ralph
well that can go either way...even tho it is a positive response...it can also be very disasterous...
nahhh you are not useless at all. it's normal to act that way when you are seeing someone you are interested in. all i can say is tell her how you feel before it's too late...okay!!!!
have you not developed any social skills in your life at all? if you're not willing to take a risk then too bad. just be honest - you say you are not on top of what is assigned in class? exchange a contact and be like "some things in my life suck such that i am unable to come to class all the time, do you mind if i have an email by which i may contact you for things regarding this course" but don't be so wordy treat it like an interview - everyone gets nervous, but you can't be when you're actually in an interview or write on a piece of paper "lets be friends" and include your name and email and #
