Haha, I never get the girl that I really reallly like too. Well, there is this one girl that i fell for. Absolutely want to be with her. But I never really got to ask her out. Actually, I tried, but pretty much got rejected. I couldnt really talk to her normally for some reason, but wasnt like that when I first meet her. Heck, I actually had a pretty good start when I first meet her. She even asked me to accompany her to the book store and we chatted for a long time. But as the semester got on, the situation later declined. Now she is sorta like avoiding me. If I could only change history...
Wow wolf, you sound like the old me. Actually a matter of fact, exactly who i was back then. The secret is to consult your friends. Just talk to them and then they will *hopefully* motivate you to gather the courage to talk to her. If you are afraid to talk then sit next to her during class. Take out your laptop and while she has hers then open word document while your taking notes on your laptop and type in "Will you like to go out for lunch after class?" or something, then tip the laptop screen towards her direction so she will see. I can assure you she will glance at your laptop screen to copy down some things if she wants to refer. This way its cute and some girls think thats cute and she might start the conversation. Make sure to glance over and look at her when you turn the laptop in her direction for her to read the text on your screen. That way it will work miuch better and you can see her answer. Good luck and hope it works. =)
Its been about what 6 or so weeks since I last posted. Anyways during that time I managed to get the opportunity to talk to her. It was pure luck too. It was outside of class in a computer lab. She stopped showing to class anyways . Anyways I got the opportunity to introduce myself and then the following week I talked to her again and got her msn. I have talked to her about 4-5 times on msn and about two formal type of conversations in person. Well now the class is over, so only oportunity to talk to her is over msn and maybe if I have a class with her next semester. I talk to her about twice a week over msn with each conversion lasting between 1hr-2.5hrs. Now my question is how often should I talk to her on msn? I don't wanna come on too strong and scare her away or annoy her for that matter, but if I talk so little its gonna take a very long time.
Wolf! Woof woof Woof. Go in on the kill, man. 1hr-2.5 2x a week is alot. But seriously though, if you have to go on the net and ask for advice, then I don;t think it is natural... Maybe you should be asking, "what is the best way to ask her out????" I reckon someone would answer
OMG. Don't waste time man, or someone else is gonna jump in and steal her heart away...tat could be me -blush2
Get her #, call her up, ask her to go out for something to eat or a drink. Dunno about you but works for me. So what I'm really trying to say is, more interactions not just talk.
Create your own opportunity. Ask to see if you can borrow her notes and from there see if she is interested to study buddy/group to prepare for an exam together. It's good way to demonstrate your skill man. ;-)
As long as you are moving forward with every conversation, you don't have to rush to ask her out, especially since I'm questioning how much "game" you really got when you have to confront this girl. When I say moving forward, I mean in the bf/gf direction. Not forward in being able to talk about everything ie how you stepped on an ant as a kid and then gave it a proper burial, etc. Yeah... skip those. So give her some off the wall nickname based on some funny conversation you two shared (and use that nickname even in public), throw mixed messages, etc. After several 1.5-2.5hr IM chats tho... you might already be in the friend zone... at which point... GL because once you're in a girls friend zone... you'll more than likely be stuck there for all eternity.
im chat is ok but don't last long. It's the fresh content that counts. If you worry you im too much, you can always ask if she has time to chat.
haha sounds interesting and kind of like what happen to me except i got the girl in the end. had two classes with this one girl... took me like 2 weeks to figure out it was the same one. one class was a regular classroom the other was a lecture class(auditorium) with like 300 students. Anyway I was kind of drawn to her in the regular class and in the lecture class i did not know it was her since she was always sitting in front of me in the beginning... later on I just took her spot and she had to sit behind me. lol for some crazy reason we wanted the same spot even though there were like hundreds of other seats to choose from. So it was a game to see who gets the seat first every class so i had to go in early. after awhile i noticed she was the same girl from my smaller class so that took 2 weeks. After i decided i was interested i talked to her a little bit about the lecture class while in the regular class. Then i had to think of a way to get lunch with her after class so after our first exam i waited outside the classroom and thank god another classmate was outside and we discussed the exam and stuff and she finally came out and the 3 of us talked. he left and then i asked her if she wanted to get lunch and we went to get lunch ever since after class the whole semester and from there we sat next to each other in the lecture class. anyway to shorten this I went after her after the semester ended during winter break, and we dated for 1 1/2 years. the reason it was after the semester ended was she was datign someone at the time but they broke up around end of november. of course while she was dating him she was already interested in me since we shared 2 classes together, ate lunch twice a week, and talked online almost every night. i wish you best of luck and think of a way to break the ice
wow, this whole thing is like a drama i am currently watching called densho otako, how a guy is shy and everythin, but he goes into a computer forum to help him out, and how there is those supporting people and those who benefit from this guys courage, and then those who mock the person. But other than that, I know how you feeling man, don't give up, man, i was in your shoes and i went down the wrong path. I did the opposite of what these people are telling you to do. I was real shy, no doubt about that. But i met this one girl, she was the most cutest thing i have ever met. I slowly started talking to her, gain her number the first day i met her, I thought wow, that was quick. We started hanging out, going out to lunch and we spent time with eachother during the summer. I took days off from my work to match her days off so i can spend even more time with her. But we were becoming good friends, but i wanted it to be more than that. So in one of our random conversations, i asked her if she had a bf, and she said no, and than i smirked a lil, but than i brought up the question "what do u find in a guy". She said stuff like he has to be smart, kind, gentle hearted, and everything was going good because i saw myself as those things. But then she said she would date only older people, which when she said that, my sight has just became dark, because i knew that she had a 3 yrs on me, i was like 18 and she 21. But i don't know, after she said that, my confidence went all down, in which i shouldn't have let that happen. That summer, she went to vietnam, and i didn't see her for like 7 weeks, until school started again, and me, i try to keep in touch as much as possible with her. But days passed, and i still didn't pursue. LAter i found out that she got a bf like in october, and i was in total shutdown for like 2 months. We keep in touch, but not as much as before, but i still try to be a good friend, bc that is all i can do for waiting for so long. So long moral to short lesson is pursue man, do what these people are telling you to do, and don't make the same mistake as me bc you will regret. It is like a school project you did the whole school semester, but the day it was due, you forgot to turn it in, and the project that you spent all your time on was a waste.
The girl I'm trying to court went back home to her parents place for the holidays and now I can't even talk to her on msn :(. She is also 2 years older then me and comes from a different background too.
Wow. did she tell u she was gonna go home for christmas? If yes. u ok. Spend more time wit her when she gits back. Try to learn her background etc -cool
Ya she told me she was going home for the holidays to be with her family. Does age make a difference? I thought girls usually only go for guys who are at least the same age as them.
Does race make a difference? I mean, I'm Chinese, I even look Chinese and stuff with my hair and crap... damn, I just think I have low self confidence. Does anyone here think the stereotypes about white girls wanting guys who are all buff and big and crap?
to tell u the truth, from my opinions on how girls look at us and seeing some nice lookin girls w/ the avg asian, looks don't play as large of a role as it should, but it helps. And to tell you the truth, you shouldn't be w/ a girl who cares mostly about ur looks, it is the person that you are that counts. just be yourself man.
