I am also shy and useless-unsure ... I am even worst than you... I panic when I see the girl I like. I get really red and I have to run away. I am tryin my best to improve myself. Its a bad feelin but I hope it goes well for you.
I couldn't help but to feel sorry for you, when I was reading your situation. I used to be shy, not as much as you, I think, because I'd talk to the guys that I was interested in.. You had a lot, and I mean a lot of opportunities wasted when you had the class with her, someone mentioned the notes idea, that would've been as close to a perfect start as ever to get to know her more.. But the past is the past, just be open and honest with her, most girls can tell when a guy likes them, lol we're not stupid.. and don't think that you're useless-nono that's very negative and you'll only fail when you think like that. Getting over you're shyness, now that requires brain power, focus and a plan of action. lol strategy really, I think.. Now all you have is msn.. *sighs* it might be easier for you to be more forward, because you're not in person with her.. When she comes back, obviously talk to her a bit on a friendly level: how'd your vacation go? how's the fam? Did you have fun? typical stuff like that. I'd say on the second occasion of chatting with her on msn, ask her to go out with you and a couple of your friends, e.g. like if your friends where going to the movies, just say "hey, some of my friends and I are going to the movies tonight, feel free to come okay?" or "it'd be cool if you could come" or something like that because, it's not like you're putting pressure on her as if it is an official date, its just a friend hanging out with other friends or you can even ask (after you invite her) to bring some friends with her (that might make her feel more comfortable, knowing that she'll have some of her friends there too).. Hmm, but all in all, relax and talk to her as if she was a normal girl, really, thats where the brain power comes in to get over the shyness or at least to control it.. when I was getting over my shyness, when I was younger, I first had to learn to control it, I'd mentally push myself to take the initiative to talk and ask questions to people that I first met, (thats what I was kinda shy about, meeting new people) but eventually it came natural to talk no matter if I just met that person or if I liked that person, it didn't matter. As stated before girls like the confidence that a man has.. Nothing is wrong with being shy, it's kinda cute in a way, lol but you have to learn to control it. I didn't mean to write a long reply lol but I hope it helps..
ahhh dude shoulda took her out for Jamba Juice when he had the chance.. -lol. Watch she come back from break with a boyfriend.. -lol kiddin... where's another update?
Play it cool man and go in shamelessly with lines like "Hey babe, if we were letters in the alphabet, I'd put U and I together." or invite her out to a club or student union bar, and when you're buying her a drink say "Hey gorgeous what you want? This one's on me, maybe later I can get on you." Good Luck.
You guys are cruel..lol but funny, I kinda agree with the above comments except for those "pick-up" lines lol "Hey babe, if we were letters in the alphabet, I'd put U and I together." "Hey gorgeous what you want? This one's on me, maybe later I can get on you." No offense, but -rotfl I don't see them working anytime soon..However, you can still give it a try Wolf!!! I soo want to find out what happens...lol, I need to get out more...
the guy is Wolf with puppy instinct.. -lol ohh sorry cant help it.. ahahaha.. he probably jumped off a bridge by now..=x
ecko your so evil hahaha... imo im actully almost the same as wolf but hell... i'm not intrested at anyone at this moment so i can talk to girls normally XD but i understand if your shy and you like a girl but just like screw it up all the time.. i had that to at my last school =.= but good luck wolf! i support yah XD
I think with guys and girls alike, we fear that the worst case scenarios are what USUALLY happen. By "worst case scenarios" I mean the hollywood-style rejections when the girl rejects the guy cold (or vice versa). Sure, when we're watching the movie, we get a good laugh (or cry) out of it, but when it comes to us, guess what situations we'll be referring to when we ask people out? That's right, movies. The real world is pretty different from a movie, and not all guys or girls treat "requests" the same way. Most guys and girls aren't cruel about it. Unless you're being a creepy stalker. On a related note, put your feet in your dating prospect's shoes. Given your current actions, how would he or she most likely act towards you? If you've been conjuring up all these "plans of actions" and didn't end up doing much other than the occasional "hi" and "bye", your dating prospect won't have much information to draw from. You haven't talked much to him or her, and so he or she would reasonably think, "hmm, this girl/guy seems a bit reserved, doesn't talk a whole lot." Now whose fault is that? Yours, for not daring to say more than usual out of nervousness, shyness, awkwardness, whatever. A "hello" isn't very awkward at all. Doesn't hurt to try. Oh, and another thing. Don't make your plan of action so obvious. If your next step is "ask her out" then just weave it in, and call it something like "hanging out". If she doesn't mind going on a few outings with you, then yeah, you've got a chance to "ask her out" as in bf/gf, so long as you played your cards right (i.e. acted like yourself). Girls don't necessarily like guys who are only big and buff, nor do guys only like girls who are all hot (because if they're airheads, after a while, it'll just get annoying). Personality is key here. Sorry if I essentially repeated everything other people said.
lol girls r onli girls fukk haha straight up get shot down then w.e look for another 1, wen i was young i was scared 2, but as u grow up, u realize itz onli a girl
i didn't read thru the pages, so yea.. wolf, at least try breaking the ice, if u like her, then why wouldn't u want to give yourself a chance with her? Your in college already. Just do it. Lmao, please no pickup lines.
well since the girl is shy to she will NEVER ask you out even if she liked you.. so just take the lead as the boy and ask her out maybe just for a drink or something.. but tbh it wouldnt be hard.. since you guys been friends
I feel your pain, dude! Im exactly the same. I can't talk to the girls I like, but can talk to the ones I dont like as much. But....I think it could just be them that talk as much, especially when I make more of an effort. I think that perhaps the ones I can't talk to are actually the ones I subconciously don't like. Although they're cute, maybe my brain just says "Hell no, she's not right for you bub!" Maybe its the same for you?
i donno if i should feel pity or not.... wats the big deal... only a girl... not like she gonna bite.. {although most times i do hope they do, sigh***} but anyways just think of some way to hang out together like a big bbq or ski trip or something... talk more... give em a chance to like you
You maybe shy... but Definitely NOT USELESS!!!! you can always... work for me n scrub the floors... -lol lmao...
